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Problems with My Best Friend

Q: I'm 13 years old and in middle school. "Megan" has been my best friend since kindergarten. When we started middle school, we were not in the same classes or even the same team anymore, and even our lunch period is different. "Megan" has made a lot of new friends, and I have, too, but she never includes me in her plans with her friends anymore. When I call her after school, she is nice to me but makes excuses to get off the phone. I made new friends, but still feel like "Megan" is my best friends, and don't understand why she is not spending more time with me. I even turn down invitations to wait for her because I hope she will call me and want to do things together again. How do I get my best friend back?

A: It always hurts a lot to lose a friend, and especially a best friend. From what you tell me that "Megan" doesn't make an effort to include you when she does things with her friends, it sounds like you have really lost your best friend. People change as they grow, and you and your friends are at the age when you will all make many changes, body, mind, and friends. I suggest you accept that you have lost Megan as your best friend, and spend more time with the your new, and old, friends. Hopefully as you get to know your friends more, you will find a new best friend. Life is all about change. It hurts sometimes, but you learn to accept the changes and move on. Instead of being sad about what you don't have, be grateful for and enjoy the friends you do have.

Good luck.

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